Let’s pick up where I left off in my previous post, Dress for you, No.One.Else. As I mentioned there, after second guessing my bubble skirt outfit choice, a dear friend who had viewed the look in my stories, DM'd me on Instagram with the sweetest: “Tamu, I love this look for you.” Later, when I met up with this woman whose iconic style is among the most exciting on social media, we picked up from her DM and eased into a conversation about how we have started to assign consideration to outfit choices that we would never have second guessed just a few years prior. Throughout our conversation, the main sentiments echoed included prioritising joy when styling outfits; being motivated by positive self image when getting dressed; and pretty much ignoring convention as women of multicultural aesthetic input, and who possess a pure passion for fashion and style.
Love this and your beastie is so right re you’re Jamaican and grew up in NYC so nothing you wear is inappropriate lol! Live out loud through your style always!! It’s our gift to the world and if people don’t understand it, fuck em’!
I agree with the insightful comments that you've shared. Also, because I am older than your mother by a few years, I am happy to read how she enjoys dressing to please herself. I have been on a fashion journey in the last few years myself. It is a new experience for me since I never felt that I was worthy or suitable or something equally ridiculous to wear what I like or look good in. Now, my new mantra is good self care. I define and refine that mantra every day. Whether it's clothing or health or travel or exercise or friendships, I select what pleases me. As I write this, I realize that it's not just what we wear, but who we spend time with, what we enjoy doing. Anyway, those are my thoughts. Have a great day!
I thoroughly agree. My Afro Hispanic Caribbean mom dressed amazingly all her life and was still looking cool as hell up until she passed away in her 70s. She was wearing shorter shorts and dresses right up until her last days. I plan to follow in her footsteps.
Even though I am a chicken about a lot of things, I wasn’t freaking out because I really wanted to do it. It’s manageable. There is some post procedure discomfort, but I didn’t need the pain meds. Please let me know if you want details.
Oh yes, and the future is now! I'm really embracing this: "Do go overboard on embracing all the characteristics you love about yourself." I think that as the child of immigrants (a Jamaican mom, a Nigerian dad), I can lean too hard into a kind of false "humility" that is really about making myself smaller. I write about girls claiming space, and being their whole selves in the world -- I have to make a daily commitment to do the same!
Love this and your beastie is so right re you’re Jamaican and grew up in NYC so nothing you wear is inappropriate lol! Live out loud through your style always!! It’s our gift to the world and if people don’t understand it, fuck em’!
I agree with the insightful comments that you've shared. Also, because I am older than your mother by a few years, I am happy to read how she enjoys dressing to please herself. I have been on a fashion journey in the last few years myself. It is a new experience for me since I never felt that I was worthy or suitable or something equally ridiculous to wear what I like or look good in. Now, my new mantra is good self care. I define and refine that mantra every day. Whether it's clothing or health or travel or exercise or friendships, I select what pleases me. As I write this, I realize that it's not just what we wear, but who we spend time with, what we enjoy doing. Anyway, those are my thoughts. Have a great day!
I thoroughly agree. My Afro Hispanic Caribbean mom dressed amazingly all her life and was still looking cool as hell up until she passed away in her 70s. She was wearing shorter shorts and dresses right up until her last days. I plan to follow in her footsteps.
Love. Beautiful to read. Also the video clip of Sadé - everything! 💛
I need to do the eyelid surgery too and am freaking out a little. Very honest and real take!
Even though I am a chicken about a lot of things, I wasn’t freaking out because I really wanted to do it. It’s manageable. There is some post procedure discomfort, but I didn’t need the pain meds. Please let me know if you want details.
Ooh! I’d love details. How long did the healing last? Lovely piece thank you!
I am thinking about interviewing the surgeon.
I did upper, lower with Co2 Lazer. The major part of the upper and lower swelling reduces in 8 days. Recovery takes 8-10 weeks.
The scab from the Co2 takes up to three weeks to flake away (Rubs away with aquaphor)
You see major difference after 1 year!
such a lovely, layered post--thank you! ❤️🩹
Thank you for reading. Have you experienced any of these feelings? Are you preparing yourself for the future?
Oh yes, and the future is now! I'm really embracing this: "Do go overboard on embracing all the characteristics you love about yourself." I think that as the child of immigrants (a Jamaican mom, a Nigerian dad), I can lean too hard into a kind of false "humility" that is really about making myself smaller. I write about girls claiming space, and being their whole selves in the world -- I have to make a daily commitment to do the same!